1-25-2025 Our relationship with Go
Do we really
have a relationship with our heavenly Father?
In the womb,
we have a relationship only with mom.
She gives us a place to live and grow.
She feeds us. As a fetus
grows, it is constantly getting messages from its mother. It's not just hearing
her heartbeat, her voice and whatever music she might play near her belly; it
also gets chemical signals through the placenta. A new study finds that this also
includes signals about the mother's mental state (Science Daily.com). We communicate with mom even before we are
born into this world!
The
first time baby ‘sees’ mom is after birth as mom holds baby in her arms. I remember when they wheeled my wife and baby
daughter out of the delivery room. In
her mother’s arms, she looked at me as if to say “whoooo are yoooou?”. Yes, babies can sense the presence of their
father while still in the womb, primarily through hearing his voice and feeling
his touch on the mother's belly, with some research it is suggested that they
may start recognizing dad’s voice as early as around 25-32 weeks of pregnancy.
This allows for early bonding between father and child even before birth
(sorry, this is all I could find and this was this on ‘google search’). So maybe my newborn daughter wasn’t wondering
who I was but rather “Ooooh! That’s what
you look like!”
When we
are new-bon Christians, all we know is that Jesus has provided us the route to
eternal fellowship with the father.
Aside from man-made pictures, we still don’t know what Father or Jesus
truly look like. John tells us that we
shall see Him (God) as He is (1 John 3:1-3).
As we
grow in the Lord, we come to ‘know’ who He is.
In the bible, we read about His love, how he cares for us, provides for
us, gives us direction and how He communicates with us through the Holy
Ghost. On a more personal level, the
Holy Ghost becomes our comforter (John 14:15-18). He will lead us into all truth and understanding
(John 16:13-15). He will give us the
power to live for Jesus (Acts 1:8) so we can take authority (in His stead) over
the power of all devils and to cure all diseases (Luke 9:1). For what more could we ask? Of course, if/when we quench the Holy Ghost,
we miss out on some these powers (1 Thess. 5:19). Quench is the Greek word abennumi (G4570) which is to quench, put out or extinguish. To these descriptions, Webster’s adds subdue
overcome, or destroy, along with some indications which satisfy physical needs
or desires (like a drink of water). In
other words, if we quench the Spirit, we don’t allow the Holy Ghost to operate
within us, that is we stick Him in a cubby hole, a drawer, a closet, in the
attic, basement or whatever or just turn a deaf ear to His direction. We will miss out on what He has to
offer. We are cautioned not to grieve
the Holy Ghost (Eph.4:30), which implies we have a choice to allow Him to work
in our lives or not. Grieving makes Him
sad. Being sorrowful that we prohibit
what He can do for us, in us and through us.
And He is our assurance of our eternity (Rom. 8:14-17). Allowing the Holy Ghost freedom to operate in
our lives, gives us the opportunity, not just the ability, to grow in our
relationship with the Lord.
As we
grow as children, dad and mom give us a place to live, feed us and take care of
us until we are able to ‘fend’ for ourselves (sound like pregnancy?). They give us direction to help us live a
reasonably decent and respectful life (love our neighbor as ourselves – Lev.
19:18, Mark 12:30-31). As the ‘head
honcho (figure) dad should be responsible for teaching us about and abiding in
God’s love. Mom should be backing dad up
and picking up the slack when dad’s not around (ideally). Dad should also be teaching us to gain and
maintain our relationship with our heavenly Father, through Jesus Christ, our
Lord. Again, they give us guidance for
living this life in this world. Doesn’t
God do the same (read the bible)? There
should also be encouragement to read the scriptures for ourselves, not relying
on ‘just’ what we learn from ‘man’ though all the input should be helping us to
develop a healthy communication link with our heavenly Father. That means direction on praising God, setting
our petitions before our Lord and just having a loving Father to child talk –
“what a lovely day today is. How about
You, Lord ? (Yes we need to listen to hear from Father), thank you Father”,
etc. Yes, a conversation as you might
have with your best friend. Yes,
communication is a two-way undertaking. Becoming an adult is a huge
responsibility in our relationship with our heavenly Father and that
responsibility carries over to us as we become parents. The parent-child relationship is an
indication of our relationship with Father.
However,
we have to let Jesus into our heart first, then
we learn how to live in, with and for Him as well as communicate with Him. It doesn’t happen automatically. Why?
Roughly, only about 1/3 of the world population claims to be Christian
(statista.com) and wikkipedia tells us that about 65% of adults in the U.S.
identify as Christian. Webster says that
‘identify’ means to cause or to become identical, conceive as united (with),
associate with some interest or to be or become the same. Do we mirror Father’s image? Bear in mind that there are those who have
come into the church (unfortunately) which look like the real deal but may not
be (Jude 1:4). So we have to pass on what
we learn. We also need to test the
spirit to assure whether that person (or issue) is of God or not (1 John 4:1-3)
and that includes our reading matter. We
need proper direction for our lives so we need to make sure of what or who we
listen to or see to get the proper Spiritual nutrition. Amen?
As I
said, dad and mom help us to be who we become in this world. That means good direction, bad direction or
no direction at all. So through our
relationship with dad and mom, in part, we become who we are as an adult.
Now,
I’m not saying that outside influences don’t or won’t affect us. We are individuals who can learn so what we
see, read or hear does have an impact on us, but I am saying we make our own
choices. Yet, as we have a ‘solid foundation’ installed in our childhood, we
can learn to grow from those good things which come our way and reject that
which is detrimental. When dad and mom
give us that solid foundation, we not only develop a good relationship with
them, but also come to understand the relationship we should have with our
heavenly Father. And this relational experience should spill over into the
church or fellowship we attend. Yes, we
have to learn from the world around us, but prefer Godly input.
Did we
feel free to talk openly with dad and mom?
Did they comfort us when we hurt (feelings or physical)? Did we seek their advice or direction on things
we didn’t understand (Matt. 7:7-8)? When
we spoke to them, did they listen (1 Peter 3:12)? Did we socialize with dad and mom, that is
play games, relax in the backyard, take vacations, etc. (Psalm 23:1-6)? How well did we communicate with our
parents? Or did we did we communicate with
them at all (Prov. 15:8)? Have we ever
thanked our parents for all they had done for us (Phil. 4:6-7)? Or did we say to ourselves “They just don’t
understand me!” When we ‘messed up’, did
our parents reprimand (punish) us (2 Sam. 7:13-15, Eph. 6:4, Col.3:21)? Somewhere along the line, we should have said
‘I’m sorry I did that’ (repent) whatever we have done. But did all our parents do was continually
remind us of how ‘bad’ we were? Or did they show us forgiveness for our misdeed
(1 John 1:9-10)? Just don’t do it again
(John 8:11)! We need to ask. Father forgives us of any sin we may have
committed and yes, we should intend not do repeat our error (Acts 3:19). God then sets that sin behind His back (Isa.
38:17) and that sin slides into the sea of forgetfulness (Micah 7:19), God no
longer remembers our sin! Neither should
we.
Father
created us to be communal beings (Gen. 2:18, Heb. 10:25). That is we need others around us so we can
connect and communicate, in a positive fashion (Eph. 4:29), with someone other
than ourselves. Not to be alone or lonely. We do need ‘alone time’, maybe to collect
our thoughts or be with the Lord, but
not alone all the time. Father gave Eve to Adam, not just so they could have
children, but that Adam would have a companion as well, that is someone to communicate with, on his
level. Share this life with (Gen.
2:20-23). Yet, maintain communication
with our Lord? Isn’t the same true for
us?
When we
don’t communicate, how can we develop a relationship with anyone, much less
God?
So now,
we ask ourselves “How do I communicate with my Lord? Do I have a relationship with the
Creator of all things?”
Stanford University says: Positive human connection plays an important role in maintaining our
emotional-physical health, well-being, and growth. Whether it be with friends,
peers, or a significant other, relationships often allow us to forge deep and
meaningful bonds that can result in a sense of purpose, great joy, and
satisfaction (https://studentaffairs.stanford.edu/)
Several sources imply that a good relationship
is characterized by qualities like mutual respect, open communication,
trust, honesty, empathy, commitment, individual growth support, shared values,
the ability to compromise, and healthy boundaries, where all feel valued and
empowered within the relationship.
The Apostle Paul tells the Corinthians to do that which edifies so we can grow (1 Thess. 5:11, 1 Corinth. 14:26-40). In other words, say and do those things which, instead of tearing down, others are building them up so they are encouraged by what we say and do. And that even means bringing them back onto the ‘straight and narrow (Matt. 7:13-14) they have strayed, but whatever we do, do always in love (1 Corinth. 16:13-14).
So, just where is our relationship with
God? Do we even have a true relationship
with Him? Are we basking in His love
enjoying the confidence that we are on the right track? As my relationship with the Lord improves, my
relationship with those around me also gets better.
My relationship with the Lord has grown over the years. In the beginning I prayed and read the bible AND I went to church (for more input). I thought I was doing pretty good. Then Father baptized me in the Holy Ghost. A whole new world started to open up for me! I was reading the scriptures with more understanding and I was learning better to pray on my own, with others and with my heavenly Father. As my relationship improved (over the years) and as I drew closer to the Lord, not was I just seeing truths in the bible, Father was showing me the depth of the meaning of those words I was reading. Father has helped me write many ‘song-poems’ about our relationship and as I sing them back to Father, the Holy Ghost rises up within me. Anymore, as I am singing I get “weak in the knees and shivers if you please” (as one of the songs says). This has also spilled over into church services where I get the same feeling singing most of the songs we sing in the church, which I attend. This also happens also during bible studies (whether I’m teaching or some else is) and even as the Pastor presents the Word in our fellowship, I get weak in the knees and shivers, if you please. It’s awesome! There are benefits in walking with our Lord.
Through prayer, reading my bible and interaction with other Christians, I learn who God really is and what my relationship should be. I remember Job. Early in life, both natural and Spiritual. I’ve come to realize that in my life, I knew about God, but as I grow, I am coming to know WHO God truly is. Job knew who God was, but then he saw Him ‘face to face! (Job 42:5). He came to truly know Him!
As I said, there are many benefits to having good interpersonal relationships in the natural as well as the Spiritual and that increases many times over, as we strengthen our relationship with our growth in our heavenly Father.
So, just where is our relationship with YAWEH, I AM, the Lord God Almighty, the Everlasting King, my Savior?
Amen