1-11-2025 Our relationship with God
Do we really have a relationship with our heavenly Father?
In the womb,
we have a relationship only with mom.
She gives us a place to live and grow.
She feeds us. As a fetus
grows, it's constantly getting messages from its mother. It's not just hearing
her heartbeat and whatever music she might play near her belly; it also gets
chemical signals through the placenta. A new study finds that this also includes
signals about the mother's mental state (Science Daily.com). We communicate with mom even before we are
born into this world!
The
first time baby ‘sees’ mom is after birth as mom holds baby in her arms. I remember when they wheeled my wife and baby
daughter out of the delivery room. In
her mother’s arms, she looked at me as if to say “whoooo are yoooou?”. Yes, babies can sense the presence of their
father while still in the womb, primarily through hearing his voice and feeling
his touch on the mother's belly, with some research it is suggested that they
may start recognizing dad’s voice as early as around 25-32 weeks of pregnancy.
This allows for early bonding between father and child before birth
(sorry, this is all I could find and it was this on ‘google search’). So maybe my newborn daughter wasn’t wondering
who I was but rather “Ooooh! That’s what
you look like!”
When we
are new-bon Christians, all we know is that Jesus has provided us the route to
eternal fellowship with the father.
Aside from man-made pictures, we still don’t know what Father or Jesus
truly look like. John tells us that we
shall see Him (God) as He is (1 John 3:1-3).
As we
grow in the Lord, we come to ‘know’ who He is.
In the bible, we read about His love, how he cares for us, provides for
us, gives us direction and how He communicates with us through the Holy
Ghost. On a more personal level, the
Holy Ghost becomes our comforter (John 14:15-18). He will lead us into all truth and understanding
(John 16:13-15). He will give us the
power to live for Jesus (Acts 1:8) so we can take authority (in His stead) over
the power of all devils and to cure all diseases (Luke 9:1). For what more could we ask? Of course, if/when we quench the Holy Ghost,
we miss out on some these powers (1 Thess. 5:19). Quench is the Greek word abennumi (G4570) which is to quench, put out or extinguish. To these descriptions, Webster’s adds subdue
overcome, or destroy, along with some indications which satisfy physical needs
or desires (like a drink of water). In
other words, if we don’t allow the Holy Ghost to operate within us, that is we stick
Him in a cubby hole, a drawer, a closet, in the attic, basement or whatever or
turn a deaf ear to His direction, we miss out on what He has to offer. We are cautioned not to grieve the Holy Ghost
(Eph.4:30), which implies we have a choice to allow Him to work in our lives or
not and He is the assurance of our eternity.
Allowing the Holy Ghost freedom to operate in our lives, gives us the
opportunity, not just the ability, to grow in our relationship with the
Lord.
As we
grow as children, dad and mom give us a place to live, feed us and take care of
us until we are able to ‘fend’ for ourselves (sound like pregnancy?). They give us direction to help us live a
reasonably decent and respectful life (love our neighbor as ourselves – Lev.
19:18, Mark 12:30-31). As the ‘head
honcho (figure) dad should be responsible for teaching us about and abiding in
God’s love. Mom should be backing dad up
and picking up the slack when dad’s not around (ideally). Dad should also be teaching us to gain and
maintain our relationship with our heavenly Father, through Jesus Christ , our
Lord. Again, they give us guidance for
living this life in this world. There
should also be encouragement to read the scriptures for ourselves, not relying
on ‘just’ what we learn from ‘man’ for all the input should be helping us to
develop a healthy communication link with our heavenly Father. That means direction on praising God, setting
our petitions before our Lord and just having a loving Father to child talk –
“what a lovely day today is. How about
You (Yes we need to listen to hear from Father)?Thank you Father”, etc.
However,
it seems that most of us, most likely have to let Jesus into our heart first then we learn how to live in, with and
for Him. Why? Roughly, only about 1/3 of the world
population claims to be Christian (statista.com) and wikkipedia tells us that
about 65% of adults in the U.S. identify as Christian. Webster says that ‘identify’ means to cause
or to become identical, conceive as united (with), associate with some interest
or to be or become the same. Bear in
mind that there are those who have come into the church (unfortunately) which
look like the real deal but may not be (Jude 1:4). So, we need to test the spirit to assure
whether that person (or issue) is of God or not (1 John 4:1-3) and that
includes our reading matter. We need
proper direction for our lives so we need to make sure of what or who we listen
to or see. Amen?
As I
said, dad and mom help us to be who we become in this world. That means good direction, bad direction or
no direction at all. So through our
relationship with dad and mom, we become who we are as an adult. Now, I’m not saying that outside influences
don’t or won’t affect us. We are
individuals who can learn so what we see, read or hear does have an impact on
us, nor am I saying we can’t make our own choices. Yet, as we have a ‘solid
foundation’ installed in our childhood, we can learn to grow from those good
things which come our way and reject the that which is detrimental. When dad and mom give us that solid foundation,
we not only develop a good relationship with them, but also come to understand
the relationship we should have with our heavenly Father. And this relational
experience should spill over into what church or fellowship we attend.
Did we
feel free to talk openly with dad and mom?
Did they comfort us when we hurt (feelings or physical)? Did we seek their advice or direction on things
we didn’t understand (Matt. 7:7-8)? When
we spoke to them, did they listen (1 Peter 3:12)? Did we socialize with dad and mom, that is
play games, relax in the backyard, take vacations (Psalm 23:1-6)? How well did we communicate with our parents? Or did we did we communicate at all (Prov.
15:8? Have we ever thanked our parents
for all they had done for us (Phil. 4:6-7)? When we ‘messed up’, did our
parents reprimand (punish) us (2 Sam. 7:13-15, Eph. 6:4, Col.3:21)? Somewhere along the line, we should have said
‘I’m sorry I did that’ (repent) but all they did was continually remind us of
how ‘bad’ we were? Or did they show us forgiveness for our misdeed (1 John
1:9-10)? Just don’t do it again! When we ask, Father forgives us of any sin we
may have committed and yes, we should intend not do repeat our error (Acts 3:19). God then sets that sin behind His back (Isa.
38:17) and that sin slides into the sea of forgetfulness (Micah 7:19), He no
longer remembers it!
Father
created us to be communal beings (Gen. 2:18, Heb. 10:25). That is we need others around us so we can
connect and communicate, in a positive fashion (Eph. 4:29), with someone other
than ourselves. Not to be alone or
lonely. Father gave Eve to Adam, not just
so they could have children, but that Adam would have a companion (as well) –
someone to communicate with. Share his
life with. Don’t we need the same?
When we
don’t communicate, we can develop no relationship with anyone, much less
God.
So now,
we ask ourselves “How do I communicate with my Lord? Do I have a relationship with the
Creator of all things?”
Stanford University says: Positive human connection plays an important role in maintaining our
emotional-physical health, well-being, and growth. Whether it be with friends,
your peers, or a significant other, relationships often allow us to forge deep
and meaningful bonds that can result in a sense of purpose, great joy, and
satisfaction (https://studentaffairs.stanford.edu/)
Several sources imply that a good relationship
is characterized by qualities like mutual
respect, open communication, trust, honesty, empathy, commitment, individual
growth support, shared values, the ability to compromise, and healthy boundaries,
where all feel valued and empowered within the relationship.
So, just where is our relationship with God? Do we even have a true relationship with Him? Are we basking in His love enjoying the confidence that we are on the right track? as my relationship with the Lord improves, my relationship with those around also gets better.
There are many benefits to having good interpersonal relationships and that increases many times over when we have a good relationship with our heavenly Father.
Amen